example

DH became angered today because I told him I was not yet ready for our oldest son to stay at his Grandma's house. DH became full of rage and accused me of hating his family, told me I was a horrible communicator, said he was "done" with me in 6 weeks (that's when our younger son is due to have his spica cast removed) and called me a failure in life.

I defended myself, possibly in a sarcastic tone, and he pushed me. So I hit back and scratched his arm. He threatened to have me arrested. I laughed.

Later he did say he was sorry, he even said he deserved to be scratched by me and that he understood. Overall though, it was a very bad day, I felt anxious and physically drained all evening as a result. Our plans to work together and do some chores around the house basically didn't happen.