Worst day ever

My mom is in town, she's not staying through Thanksgiving, but she had a few days off and she's visiting the kids.

DH had left the night before around 10 PM, claiming he was going to stay at his mother's house an hour away because he had an early morning appointment with a client near her home. I recall the passing thought that he was being deceptive, but I didn't press him about it. I guess my head was just saying, "surely he wouldn't stoop so low..."

The boys awoke early today and ran to my mom, so I was sleeping in. The phone rang at about 8 AM. It was MIL, DH's mother. Hmmm...

I answered and MIL asked if DH was there! I thought that was so weird because DH is never here at 8 AM on a weekday! I was slightly annoyed, so I suggested that she try work or his cell phone. Then she said she had already tried those numbers, that he wasn't answering and she had been trying to reach him since the night before!!!!!!!!

I said, "oh? he told me he was staying at your house last night." She took a long pause and said, "no?"

I said, "nice to know!!" Then she said, "oh, well, I am worried that maybe something happened to him!" I said that when I talked to him I would let him know she called and we ended the call.

In hindsight, I wish I had said, "oh you are worried something happened to him? ME TOO, I am worried he contracted an STD!!!!"

This is something that has always bothered me about MIL. She's in such denial. She can't even give me the credit for being intelligent enough to know that the most likely explanation is that DH is cheating on me, NOT that he was either kidnapped or got into some freak accident last night on the way to her house and that the police haven't notified us because his belongings were charred unrecognizable. I mean seriously, MIL. These are about the only situations in which I would have not yet been informed that "something bad happened" to DH. ARGH.

So I called DH's work immediately. His employee answered, it sounded like she had just walked in the door, she wasn't even 100% sure DH was there. But after a minute or two, he picked up. The first thing he said was, "my appointment this morning was cancelled."

I said, "I don't care about that. Where did you stay last night?"

DH kept avoiding the obvious, I had to ask the same question about 10 times, and it wasn't until I told him that his mom had confirmed he didn't stay with her that he finally paused and said he stayed at Ta Ta's house.

I cried. I don't remember the whole conversation, but he did admit he had already slept with her numerous times. He was mad at me for asking and kept trying to say he had to get back to work. I said, you are the VP at a four person company, you will stay on the phone until I am ready. If you hang up on me, I will leave the kids with my mom for the day and I will drive up there and embarrass you and make you talk. I am still your wife, you have to answer my questions.

He essentially said he was a confused individual and that he would break up with Ta Ta and that he wanted his family back.

I didn't know what to think. I was so traumatized at this point. I got off the phone, held my tears and walked in to the kitchen to visit with my mom and the kids and get some coffee. I did not tell her what was going on. She left to go back home around noon.

I cried all day. And all weekend alone. And basically the next two months straight, every single day.