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Our youngest son had a spica cast put on yesterday and it's not like we had a choice in the matter, or as if we can "shop around" for the best deal on medical care when we needed to do this right away.

I had to pay the surgery center a $470 facility fee upfront, not covered by our insurance. I had lots going on this day, I didn't question the fee, I had to care for my 3 y/o, Beeb, while my 1.5 y/o Boo was getting this cast put on. After the cast was put on, Boo was in hysterics. He had been anethesticized so that he wouldn't wiggle while the cast was applied, and waking up with half of his body in a cast had to be very scary, even without the effects of the drug! My poor baby!

Boo was fine after a nap and by the evening, he was even learning to scoot around in his cast, such a trooper! But it was a long and exhausting day for me. DH came home and was looking over some of the medical paperwork I had brought home. He found the statement for the $470 facility fee and he freaked out! He said I should have given him a heads up and when I defended myself, saying that keeping him posted on every transaction when I was super stressed and busy was simply not a priority to me, especially when there was no option involved. He screamed that he hated me! Accused me of, again, being deceptive because I had forgotten to mention the facility fee! We had no choice, we had to pay it upfront, why why why would I have needed to clear that with him?

I wish he would learn to start with calm. Yes, this fight was in front of the kids.