Out of Control Texting

Last night's texts after DH stormed out. He was angered because while discussing splitting the finances, I quietly reminded him that in the divorce decree he signed, he did agree to pay the mortgage through December 31st. Apparently he had forgotten about this and didn't look it over before he signed. Now that the divorce is final, it's the rule. He claims that I screwed him over, and in his rage he threatened to refuse to pay anything he agreed upon, besides child support. He threatened to empty his retirement account so we can't split it. He struck me, painfully in the gut, with a thrown book, he poked me hard in the forehead, he screamed obscenities at me, displayed physically threatening body language, and disparaged my family. I stayed mostly quiet and turned my face away. I was indignant, but also scared. Then he left. I knew he was completely in the wrong, but I also knew he was shocked and stressed (his own fault, but still, I felt empathy for his loss of control) so I texted him...

ME: Calm down. Nothing is different.
DH: Fuck u
ME: Calm down. I’m here when you are settled down. I wasn’t intent on holding you to the mortgage part. That was written before I had a job.
DH: Fuck u..rotten in he’ll. I hate u & always will. I am sad tht mg boys will have to grow up with such a bitch for a mother. Please post this on the Internet because it is the truth.
ME. Please calm down. And you should come back. Beeb will be hurt tomorrow.
ME: What is the truth?
DH: I really glad that u are willing to piss way the only savings that u will have
DH: The truth is that u pushed me away bc you are a pathetic person. Someone who is arrogant, unmotivated, messy & runs her mother [mouth] all the time. I should have fucked more girls than Natasha. Oh by the way, I may start dating Natasha again, at least she respects me.
ME: I know you are mad. But nothing is different. Please calm down.
ME: Just settle down.
DH: Calm down, I will camp down the day that u are out of my life. I can’t wait for some sad sap to get caught in your web. Don’t ever introduce your boyfriends to me bc I will let them know what a mistake u are.
ME. Settle down. You don’t mean these things. You are hurting yourself.
DH: Hurting myself…haha.
ME: By being unkind . You are saying very painful things.
DH: By the way, I mean every bit of it. I wasted 10 years of my life….I should have never u. Married u.
ME: That’s sad. I love you still though. I won’t shut you out. Was just trying to protect myself.
DH. U are the biggest piece of shit that I have ever been associated with. I try to be nice but u ruin it
DH: My mother may gave faults but she was right about u! I should have listened to her from the start
ME: That’s hurtful. I know it isn’t honest though. Btw I love your mom too, I don’t expect perfect
DH: Rotten in he’ll. I am done falling for your bullshit, j tried to be nice in the decree but now the gloves are off Good luck when u need something. ..this bridge has been burned
ME: I’m sorry you are so upset. You know in your heart I am not trying to screw or hurt you. You just know it and that is that.
ME: I do not wish to hurt you . I hope you can come to some peace, I don’t like when you are so upset and hateful.
DH: Stay out of my life. Go away.
ME: I care and I am stung by all the things you said. I don’t know why you want to hurt me but I will leave you alone now. I’m here when you are ready. As always.

DH reappeared this morning around 5:30AM as I was waking up to get dressed for work. He wanted to wake up Beeb and feed him breakfast. I allowed him to do so. As I was getting ready for work, he quietly left.

whew.